No one wants to admit it, but we have all been the green eyed monster from time to time. Jealousy is a natural human instinct that most of us will experience at some point in our lives whether we want to or not. Perhaps a co-worker got a raise and we didn’t, or a neighbor scored great deals at a sale that you missed. Whatever the case may be, you might be wondering how to deal with these feelings. Take a look below at 5 tips for dealing with jealousy that you can try. Jealousy is natural, but when you utilize these tips you can keep it from taking over.
5 Tips for Dealing with Jealousy:
1. Don’t take the situation personal.
Let’s say a neighbor pulls into the driveway in a brand new car. You on the other hand have been driving around a 15 year old car that is on it’s last leg. Well here is the deal: don’t take it personal. The neighbor buying the car is not a shot against you. They aren’t doing it to make you feel bad or inadequate. Remind yourself of this when you feel jealous of someone. Very seldom does the person you are feeling jealousy towards do something in order to make you feel bad about yourself.
2. Count your blessings.
When you feel jealous about something another person has or has earned, count your own blessings. Write them down on paper if you have to. Sometimes we need to take a step back and realize that we have plenty to be thankful for and not be so worried about what we don’t.
3. Don’t forget, sometimes others will be jealous of you.
When you accomplish something, you may notice others shying away from you or holding hard feelings. Remember that often times it is their own insecurities that causes this behavior (just as you have experienced as noted above) and try to be sympathetic to that. Allow others and invite others to share in your joy so they can feel part of it. This helps break down the jealousy quickly.
4. Use jealousy to set your goals higher.
Did someone score a deal you really wanted? Did a friend get the job you wish you had? Use these moments to set higher goals for yourself. Don’t feel envy, feel motivated! It is a great way to be reminded to go after your dreams, not sulk about what you don’t have.
5. Jealousy is negativity. Period.
Don’t let negativity into your life. You simply don’t need it. When jealousy sneaks up on you, remind yourself that negativity isn’t welcome to take up space in your heart, mind, thoughts, etc. Push it away.
Feeling jealous from time to time happens, but when you give these tips a try you can better curb it! So, how will you curb your own jealousy this week and think more positive? Let us know on the Facebook page or Community Chat!